Tammy Stoner Pinkerton
Our words matter. When we have departed this earth, the one thing we will have left behind will be our words. They will be our legacy, to our children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, friends, and family who knew us. The memory of what we said will last beyond our lifetime. Our words have the power to change the world for better, or for worse.
In this culture that we live in today, of instant messaging, Twitter texts, Instagram, it is easy to forget that our words have the ability to transform the world. We let them roll off our tongue without thought of the impact they may have on others or on ourselves. It is very difficult to take them back.
Our words carry a lot of power. They have the power to keep possibilities alive, and the power to create lots of problems. When we have a powerful relationship to our word and are committed to choosing the words we mean, communication is effortless.
There is not a person among us who hasn’t regretted words spoken or written. All of us, have wished we said something just a little differently, not said something in anger, or not stumbled our way through an awkward situation, with poorly chosen words. None of us have perfect words 100% of the time. We are human, and as humans we err.
It’s not just important to give our word, but give our word and mean it. I can’t tell you the number of times I have heard and even done it myself, given my word until something better comes up. We give our word until faced with the blah, blah, blahs of life. When our word is good only until something better comes up, then we have situations that don’t work, and create upsets.
Once we are able to comprehend that our words matter, that our words are a declaration, that they work to create desired results, that we are trying to achieve, we are able to develop workability and simplicity in our life.
Our words are our agreements. They are doing what is expected of us when it’s expected. They give form and structure and substance to our lives. They generate possibility, power, and freedom. They bring peace of mind.
When we look at sources of what hasn’t worked in our lives, we will find broken promises in our agreements or broken words. When we put structures in our place to keep our word, we have the power to transform anything.
Failure to keep one’s word doesn’t mean people are bad, it just means that situations become unworkable. In a nutshell, broken words or agreements spell unworkable situations, not bad people.
Often that concept becomes mixed up. We believe when people say they will do something and don’t, they are bad. People are good even if they break their word but when words are broken, situations don’t work. Thus, it is important to agree only to words one can keep.
Today our country is under an implosion unlike any that we have seen since the civil war. We stand divided, and fragmented. Our words are all over the place, spoken randomly, and without concern for the impact they have on ourselves or on another human being. We have become careless with our words.
If we are to begin to restore some sanity during some very insane times, each of us has to stop and look at the words we choose, and the impact they have on another and on ourselves, and recognize that while seemingly fleeting, they leave permanent marks. Our words do matter.
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